Welcome to Internal Hurdles. This is built around a single, honest premise: setbacks happen to everyone. The question was never whether you’d face them. It’s whether you have the tools, the understanding, and the mindset to get back up when they do. Most of the obstacles standing between you and the life you want aren’t…
There was a time you thought once you’d done the hard bit, it would start getting easier. Here’s the truth: it doesn’t. Not at this stage. Between 50% and 75%, everything gets harder, the obstacles get bigger, and the finish line starts looking further away than it did at the start. You’re past the point…
Nothing in your life is 100% certain. Not your job. Not your health. Not your relationships. Not your plans for next week. You know this. You’ve always known this. But you spend an enormous amount of energy pretending it’s not true. My work as a GP puts me face to face with uncertainty every single…
Give someone a little extra and often they barely notice, but try to take something away and you’ll fight like your life depends on it to get it back. That’s deprival super-reaction, and it’s probably controlling more of your decisions than you realise. We don’t react the same way to loss and gain. Have a…
You’re going to be fine. That’s what you tell yourself, you’re less likely to get lung cancer even though you smoke. You’re less likely to have a car accident even though you text while driving. You’re less likely to fail even though you haven’t prepared, you’re going to be the exception to the rule. That’s…
Perhaps you’re making the same mistakes over and over again. You know you are. Same arguments with your partner. Same problems at work. The same patterns repeating themselves in your life. The same poor decisions leading to the same disappointing outcomes. Why? Because you’re not reflecting. You’re just repeating. Reflection in its simplest terms is…
Everyone fails at some time in their lives and failure hurts, it undoubtedly leaves scars, mentally and emotionally. Every day of my working life I see people sitting opposite me telling me about something that has failed in their lives, their relationships, their body, their treatment, their marriage, their business, or something else in their…
We talked about failure in the last chapter, this lesson is about the other F word and that is Fear. Fear is that primitive, hardwired drive that’s been keeping humans alive since before we had language to describe it. Fear is one of the most powerful emotions you have. It sharpens your senses, floods your…
Some people believe luck is a mystical force, a kind of invisible favour that gets distributed to the chosen few and withheld from everyone else. An explanation for why some people seem to have everything handed to them while you’re left grinding away with nothing to show for it. I understand the appeal of that…
Your network isn’t a nice-to-have. It’s infrastructure. Think about your phone. If you were the only person in the world with one, it would be worthless. Two phones and you can call each other, assuming you get along. Five phones and there are ten possible connections between them. Twenty phones and you’re looking at 190…