They say that the more you struggle in quicksand, the quicker you’ll sink, and the less you struggle, the better your chances are to get yourself out safely. Your density is half that of the quicksand. Physics says you should float. The difference is how much you struggle. The more you move, the more you…
You’ve reached a pivotal point in this journey. And something fundamental has already shifted, whether you’ve noticed it or not. You can’t go back anymore. Not because retreat is physically impossible. Not because the bridge has literally burned behind you. But because the person who could retreat no longer exists. That version of you, the…
Often, it’s easier to blame others when bad things happen rather than blame yourself. It’s easier to look for someone external to carry the can than to accept it’s actually your fault you’re in that situation to begin with. This is a self-protective conditioned response. It’s a recognised thing most of us do from time…
Critical mass and inertia are great concepts and ones you can apply to your own life. Understanding these two principles will change how you approach everything you’re trying to achieve. First, let’s start with critical mass. Reaching Critical Mass Critical mass is the term used when the minimum amount needed for something to happen is…
You’re focused on the destination. The goal, the achievement, the finish line. That’s what drives you, what gets you out of bed, what keeps you pushing forward. But here’s what you’re missing while you’re fixated on where you’re going. The journey itself is changing you in ways the destination never will. I learned this the…
You’ve finally done it. You’ve taken that big leap into what feels like the deep end. Something big, and perhaps something that felt brave at the time and now feels increasingly like it might have been stupid. Maybe you’ve left a job. Started a business. Ended a relationship. Moved to a new city. Signed up…
A few years ago, I worked with a patient who was struggling badly with anxiety. Not the occasional nerves most people experience before something important, but a persistent, debilitating pattern that was affecting her work, her relationships, and her confidence. At the centre of it was a physical experience she’d come to dread: the racing…
Nobody tells you, when you’re growing up, that the single biggest factor in whether your life goes well or badly isn’t your intelligence, your talent, your work ethic, or even your luck. It’s the people around you. That’s it. That’s the whole secret. The people you surround yourself with will determine more about your outcomes…
People love to say that nobody’s out to get you. That paranoia is irrational. That most people are fundamentally decent, and you’re just being negative. Most of the time, they’re absolutely right, most people aren’t actively plotting your downfall, that is, until you meet one that is. Sometimes there actually are predators, call them villains,…
I was born in the 70s. In fact, anyone born after the mid-60s to the early 80s is said to be a member of my generation too. I am a member of Generation X. We are the non-Baby Boomers. If you simply look at the numbers, we’re also a minority. We’re the post-boom generation sandwiched…