Our courses and books are about the things we do just as much as the things we don’t do, the reasons why we succeed, and unfortunately for most of us the reasons why we have failed to succeed in life too.
If you’ve made it this far into the website, I’ve now got my chance to convince you to read a bit more about us and about the courses we’ve put together.
But before I go into the courses in more depth I’m going to tell you the story about how all of this all started.
It must be at least ten or more years ago when I started to write a blog, initially, the blog was a journal of the types of problems people faced that had got them stuck in life. In a cathartic it helped me rationalise and cope with the world around me, most of my day involves me sitting in a small room listening to other people’s problems and trying to help them. Back then my blogsite was a way of documenting the type of problems people had and maybe a few things they could do to help themselves.
From these beginnings, my writing became a point of reference and then a store for the research I made, over the years the content grew and I could see the need to consolidate structure and share some of this knowledge.
I’ve always been good at journaling, recording and writing notes and that’s part of my job, my challenge was to write in a way other people wanted to read and share the practical wisdom that I’ve picked up over the years helping real people with real problems could be used to help other people too.
Well as the years passed the traffic to my blog grew, to this day I’ve got no idea why over a thousand people follow me on twitter, or why thousands used to visit my website and read my blogs every month. I’d like to think that sometimes something I write had hit home and it had made a difference to somebody out there and that is the real purpose why I write, and it is for this reading that I continue writing and why I have finally got my act together to start writing the courses too.
Our course and our blogs are a distilled result of over 10 years of work and almost 500 articles, blogs, notes or just plane ranting that were written during that time. Luckily for the reader I’ve spent the last 18 months getting things structured, rebranding, creating a platform and a common theme in the hope that I can take you on a journey of discovery so that you can find out a little bit more about what makes you think the way you do and what you can do if you feel stuck in your problems or just feel stuck in life.
I’m going to give you examples of the things I’ve seen in my own practice talking to my patients, and I suspect my readers will also have some of these problems in common too. I have also tried to get away from the big words that some of my fellow self-help writers use to big themselves and their courses up, where I can I’ve written stuff in plain English and where necessary I hope I’ve explained things with examples that you can relate to. I just want you to be able to read my stuff and imagine I’m just sitting right next to you having a chat.
If I was to use big words I might say that the courses use a modern cognitive approach, then I’d explain this by saying that sometimes we think and behave in a way that points us towards success whilst at other times we think and behave in a way where we shoot ourselves in the proverbial foot.
All that my courses are designed to do is to try and explain some pretty complicated stuff that’s really going to help you in the real-world using easy language and not too much technical psychobabble that is useful to anyone who wants to understand a little bit more about why they may be stuck or failing at something whilst others appear to be succeeding.
For years successful people, coaches or psychologists know there are ways of thinking that can help you succeed as well as ways of thinking that cause us to get stuck in your problems.
Getting stuck in a problem mindset brings with it lots of emotional unrest, If this has happened to you I think I can help. I will give examples of many of the traits, behaviour patterns and cognitive biases that affect us in everyday life and also thankfully how you can start to fix those poor ways of thinking too.
Stop right there Jeff! what the hell is a cognitive bias?
Ok, a cognitive bias is just a distortion in how you think and there are well over 200 common cognitive biases and distortions that I’ve spotted in people’s thinking that I see regularly (and I think are worth discussing).
There are also many heuristics (another big word again) let’s just call these ‘rules of thumb’ or mental short cuts that I have seen work for people that you can use if you want to improve how you think, how you act, and especially if you want to improve your situation in life.
How we think affects how we behave and fundamentally how you cope with the events that life throws at you. Not being able to cope is one thing but coping in the wrong way can be much much worse, understanding why you do what you do is so important especially if you want to start doing something different instead.
We all see, feel, and react to things in different ways, we all have different models of the world we live in which is built up from our memories, past experiences, our beliefs, and the set of values we live by.
Our blogs, our courses, and the book I’ve written will help you explore your model of the world around you and other models of the world that are a little bit different from your own.
Abraham Maslow an American psychologist was quoted to have said back in 1966,
‘I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail’.
For some of you, our articles and courses will help you to use your hammer and show you what needs hammering, for others, it can metaphorically stop you hammering your head against a brick wall too. Yet what I really want to do is to give you a few more tools other than the hammer as well, and I will also show you how to use them to help you build a better life for yourself.