Our courses and books are about the things we do just as much as the things we don’t do in life, with a specific focus on the reasons why we have succeeded, as well as the reasons why we may have failed to succeed in life so far.
If you’ve made it this far into the website, I’ve now got my chance to convince you to read a bit more about us and about the courses we’ve put together.
But before I go into the courses in more depth I’m going to tell you the story about how all of this all started.
It must be at least ten or more years ago when I started to write a blog, initially, the blog was a journal of the types of problems people faced that had got them stuck in their lives. In a cathartic way it helped me rationalise and cope with the world around me because most of my day involves me sitting in a consultation room listening to people’s problems and trying to help them. My blogsite became a way for me to doccument the type of problems people had, and my insights into what they could do to help themselves.
From these beginnings, my writing became a point of reference and then a store for the articles I had written, over the years the content grew and I increasingly became aware of the need to structure and catalogue this knowledge so it could be shared more easily to my readers.
I’ve always been good at journaling, recording and writing notes and that’s part of my job, my challenge was to write in a way other people wanted to read and to share the practical wisdom that I’ve picked up over the years helping real people with real problems. As the years passed the traffic to my website grew and to this day I’ve got no idea why well over a thousand people follow me on twitter, why thousands used to visit my website or why thousands used to read my blogs every month. However, I’d really like to think that sometimes something I had written had hit home and had made a difference to one of my readers, and that is the real purpose of why I continue to write and why I have finally got my act together to start writing the books and the courses too.
Our course and our blogs are a distilled result of over 10 years of work and almost 500 articles, blogs, notes or just my ranting during that time.
Luckily for the reader I’ve spent the last 18 months getting things structured, I’ve rebranded, and created a platform for our courses, in the hope that I can take you on a journey of discovery too so that you can also find out a little bit more about what makes you think the way you do, what you can do if you feel mentally stuck, and how you can improve your thinking with the purpose of improving your life.
I’m going to give you examples of the things I’ve seen in my own practice talking to my patients, and I know that my readers will also have some of these problems in common. I have tried to get away from the big words that some of my fellow self-help writers use to big themselves up, where I can I’ve written in plain English and I hope I’ve explained things with examples that you can relate to too. I just want you to be able to read my articles and simply imagine we’re sitting next to each other having a chat.
The courses use a modern cognitive approach to change, success and self-improvement, that is I believe that we think and behave in ways that point us towards success whilst at other times we think and behave in ways that are leading us towards failure.
All that my courses and articles try and explain and rationalise some stuff, specifically ways of thinking that’s really going to help you in the real-world with not too much technical psychobabble. I want you to understand a little bit more about why you may be stuck or failing at something whilst others are succeeding so that you can make those changes you need to make.
For years successful people, coaches and psychologists know that the way you think makes a real difference in your life especially when you are faced with the problems life throws at us.
Getting stuck in a problem, and a problem mindset (I’ll talk more about this later) brings with it a lot of emotional unrest. If you’ve ever felt stuck at any time in a problem, or just stuck in life then I think I can help and I will give examples of many of the thinking traits, the behaviour patterns and the cognitive biases that cause us problems in our everyday lives and more importantly how you can start fixing these problems too.
Stop right there Jeff! what the hell is a cognitive bias?
Ok, a cognitive bias is just a distortion in how you think and there are well over 200 common cognitive biases and distortions that I’ve spotted in people’s thinking that I see on a regular basis.
There are also many heuristics (another big word again) let’s just call these ‘rules of thumb’ or mental short cuts that I have seen work for people that you can use too if you want to improve how you think, how you act, and especially if you want to improve some aspect of your life.
How we think affects how we behave and fundamentally how you cope in your life, not being able to cope is not good, but coping in the wrong way can be much much worse, so understanding why you do what you do is really important for behaviour change especially if you want to start doing something different instead.
We all see, feel, and react to things in different ways, we all have different models of the world we live in that are built from our memories, past experiences, and the set of values we live by.
Our blogs, our courses, and the book I’ve written will help you explore your model of the world around you and other models of the world that are a little bit different from your own.
Abraham Maslow an American psychologist was quoted to have said back in 1966,
‘I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail’.
For some of you, our articles and courses will help you to use your hammer and show you what needs hammering, for others, it can metaphorically stop you hammering your head against that brick wall too. Yet what I really want to do is to give you a few more tools other than the hammer, and I want to show you how you need to use them to build a better life.