The Grass is always Greener.
‘The grass is always greener‘ is a phrase that is commonly used when other circumstances seem more desirable than our own, yet paradoxically ‘the grass is always greener‘ is often said with a sense of irony meaning the opposite is also true and that seldom are other circumstances really better.
The full phrase which will be more familiar to you will undoubtedly have one of multiple commonly used endings such as; the grass is always greener ‘on the other side of the fence’, ‘on the other side of the mountain’ or ‘the grass is always greener in someone else’s garden’.
Yet despite a few variations, few appreciate the common sense held within this proverb, few understand the true meaning within the phrase to the extent that some people live their life with what I call;
The ‘grass is always greener syndrome’ is where whatever someone has is never enough, and when someone is always looking for more than without truly realising what they already have.
Everyone at some time has been affected by ‘the grass is always greener syndrome’ typified by downplaying what we currently have and focusing on what we don’t have we can miss out, there’s no doubt that for some this can ruin a person’s life, they are always searching for a better job, a better car, a better house, a higher salary and other ‘don’t have’ things.
‘We need to stop looking at the ‘don’t have’ and start looking at what we really do have’.
The phrase ‘the grass is always greener’ and other phrases similar in meaning have been around for generations, Publius Ovidius Naso a poet in ancient Rome (more commonly known as Ovid) wrote “the harvest is always richer in another man’s field”, two thousand years ago, and this message that Ovid was trying to get across then is the same one at the heart of this article.
If we feel that the grass is always greener, it has the effect of making us want to jump from one place to another as we look for quick wins, and in doing so we never focus, and we end up never concentrate our efforts on what we really need to do to make things better, and when we focus on what we don’t have, we end up with ‘don’t have’.
There are times when we need to keep our focus on our side of the fence, because success only comes when we spend our time concentrating our focus, by following through and staying on track.
Dig a little deeper.
When we feel that ‘the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence’ we are failing to see what’s really under our feet, we fail to see what we currently have, there’s always time in life to acknowledge what we really have and be grateful for what we’ve already got.
Happiness is down to you.
Being happy is down to you, when people have the ‘grass is always greener’ syndrome they say to themselves that their life ‘would be better if’; if they have that car, if they have that house, if they have that job, the fact is that external objects don’t really have a power over our internal emotions, and even if that material object does make you feel better that effect is always short lived, soon the effect wears off and you want something more.
The way to happiness is actually quite simple; the secret is to learn to want what you have and not want what you don’t have. – Buddha
A different Perspective.
The ‘grass is always greener’ causes you to distort and devalue what you already have and to overvalue that what you don’t have, it makes you take the things that are really important for granted, this means we need to change our perspective because the grass may not really be greener on the other side of the fence it just may just look that way from your side of the fence, so ask yourself this; is the grass really greener ?or is it just astroturf and not grass at all.
See the bigger picture.
People will always lead you to believe that the grass is always greener on their side of the fence, because that is what you are meant to believe, some people like to tell you more than anything else how good things are for them and how successful they are, this makes things appear much better on their side of the fence. I like to think that when we see the bigger picture their grass fails to look as green as they make it appear to be, and perhaps; ‘the grass is always greener when it’s fertilised with bullshit’.
Next time you hear the phrase ‘the grass is always greener’ take a better look because seldom is it really true, and this is why the phrase is commonly said with irony.
In real life we need to watch out for ‘the grass is always greener syndrome’ where we will fail to see what we really have, and when we fail to appreciate what we have because we are pre-occupied with looking for more.
More importantly when we believe the grass is always greener we lose focus, and we then put ourselves at risk of squandering the opportunities we already have right in front of us and this is why I like to think that ‘The grass is always greener where you water it’.
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