Week 3 Rewiring We’ve covered a lot of ground over the last nineteen days. Deletions, distortions, generalisations. Musterbation. Personalising. Labelling. Can’t statements. Rules you didn’t know you’d made for yourself. It’s a lot to take in, and if you’ve been working through this course lesson by lesson, you might be feeling a bit overwhelmed by…
Week 3 Rewiring Twenty-one days ago, I asked you to start listening. Really listening, to the voice that runs underneath everything you do. The commentary, the judgements, the rules, the shoulds and musts and can’ts. For most people, that voice runs entirely unexamined for an entire lifetime. You’ve spent three weeks doing something most people…
Week 3 Rewiring Everybody has a story about themselves. A narrative that runs underneath the day-to-day self-talk, explaining who you are and why you do what you do. Most of the time, you’re not even aware you’re telling it. It’s just there, running quietly in the background, colouring everything. I want to tell you about…
Week 2 Diagnosis Personalisation is a really common trait of negative self-talk and it happens when we get into the mental habit of taking the blame for the negative events that happen to ourselves or others that are not under our control. What our mind does when we’re suffering from personalisation is that when something…
Most people are quietly driving themselves mad. Not with dramatic breakdowns or spectacular meltdowns. Nothing that obvious. They’re doing it quietly, consistently, methodically. They’re doing it with their own internal dialogue. Their self-talk. The constant stream of commentary running through their heads every single day. Poor, incessant self-talk is slowly dragging them down, stopping them…
Week 1 Awareness Quite simply, self-denigration is what you’re doing when you put yourself down. It’s when you say bad things to yourself or call yourself names, and typically it’s when you tell yourself you’re not good enough. It’s what happens when that internal rhetoric of self-talk that’s always going on in your head turns…
Week 1 Awareness Too much negative self-talk, worry, and negative thinking makes it all too easy to accept an even more distorted view of the world. The trouble is the more we do these things, the more this type of thinking becomes the norm and we get stuck in a troubled mindset. This is because…
Week 1 Awareness In Day 3 we discussed giving yourself a pep talk in the third person, to help you become more objective in your self-talk. The trap to avoid is creating the noise of a persistent running commentary in your head. A running commentary is not good. The problem lies in the fact that…
Week 1 Awareness A lot of negative self-talk can be classified as worry. Worrying has an additional problem because it takes your mind’s processing power away from problem-solving. Instead of sorting things out, you end up spending all your time fretting instead. Worrying can be a very destructive mental habit. Get into this worry habit…
Week 1 Awareness We’ve looked at some of the ways people think, and how negative self-talk, internal worries, and state of mind can hold you back at any moment in your life. Although this type of thinking is imprinted in our psyche to keep us out of danger, more often than not in the modern…