You know those people who always seem to find evidence that the world is against them? The ones who can turn a perfectly decent day into a catalogue of disasters? The ones who, no matter what happens, somehow manage to prove to themselves that yes, life really is as terrible as they thought it was?…
Maybe you’re at home right now, sitting there reading this with a coffee, thinking about all the things you should have done but never got around to, or maybe you’re thinking of the things you should do but you find it difficult to take the first step. You’ve got dreams, plans and good intentions. Possibly…
You’ve done the hard work of Stage 1. You’ve looked honestly at where you are, understood why you’ve been stuck, and started to see and change the thinking patterns that have been holding you back. That takes courage, and most people never get even this far. They remain all talk and no action, and this…
Before we move on, it’s worth taking a moment to look at how far you’ve actually come. We started by looking at you. How you think. How your thinking is shaped by biases you probably weren’t even aware of. How those biases quietly distort your decisions, keep you stuck in the same patterns, and make…
You’re stuck. You know you’re stuck. And yet, every morning you wake up and tell yourself the same comforting lie. “Maybe today will be different. Maybe this time it’ll work out. Maybe I just need to stay positive and things will change.” You’re not optimistic. You’re addicted to hopium. It’s the most socially acceptable drug…
You’ve probably noticed something’s changed in the past decade or so. Maybe you’ve felt it at work, where you’re suddenly walking on eggshells around certain topics. Maybe you’ve seen it in your kids’ schools, where the curriculum can also focus on identity and the oppression of certain views rather than just learning. Maybe you’ve watched…
In the last few articles, I’ve spent some time describing the different groups that make up your society. I hope you can now see where you fit (or don’t fit) with a little bit more clarity. Maybe you’ve also got a feel for some of the problems you face being where you are. But let’s…
“He’s finished school,” his mum said matter-of-factly. “He needs a sick note so he can get his benefits.” I grew up thinking that if I put in the graft, I’d get the rewards I was due. That’s how the world worked, right? Effort equals outcome. Work hard, reap the benefits. And although this ethos of…
“Ooooh,” I groaned, tilting my head slightly and letting my voice rise just a touch at the end of the sentence. “Your joints must be telling you something?” I was deliberately using what’s known in NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and Ericksonian Hypnotic language as a selectional restriction violation. Her joints couldn’t actually talk to her,…
You’ve read about the generations — Baby Boomers, Generation X, Millennials, Generation Z, Generation Alpha. You’ve seen how each generation faces its own challenges, how cultural shifts are reshaping everything. Now we need to talk about what happens when all of these forces converge on real people living real lives. We need to talk about…