Your inner voice

Week 2 Diagnosis Labelling is a really negative type of self-talk that some of us fall into without even realising we’re doing it. It’s a type of lying, but it’s a lie we tell ourselves. It’s a distortion of reality in a negative way, and it’s something personal. Labelling is a type of overblaming that…

Week 2 Diagnosis You do it all the time. We all do. You’re confronted by a situation and your mind automatically leaps to a conclusion. No evidence. No checking. Just instant judgement. And if you’re feeling anxious, depressed, stressed, or worried? That conclusion you just jumped to isn’t just wrong. It’s damaging. And you’re going…

Week 2 Diagnosis Getting stuck in what you could do is a dangerous habit. A worried mind tends to be indecisive. Anxiety causes indecision. And getting stuck between one thing or another causes uncertainty and more doubt, which is not the healthiest thing for a mind that’s already worried. The trick? Look out for a…

Week 2 Diagnosis Sometimes it’s not about the language you use. Sometimes you’re just lying to yourself. You tell yourself things that, if you stopped for a few moments and actually thought about what you’d just said, you’d know you weren’t telling yourself the truth. But you don’t stop. You don’t think. You just accept…

Week 3 Rewiring I can’t. A simple phrase I hear every single day. And there were times when I used to feel like I was banging my head against a brick wall, especially when confronted with people who can’t do something. Usually, anything that might help their situation or get them out of the problem…

Week 3 Rewiring I’ve spent a lot of time in the previous lessons telling you what’s wrong with your self-talk and the many ways that people get it wrong. All I have is what people tell me. And that’s where I’ve pieced together these patterns, conversation by conversation, over thirty years of clinical practice. Putting…