The techniques and technology we use

Think of our courses as a resource, as a guide, as a mentor, as a therapist, and as a coach. They have been written to help you whoever you are, whatever you aspire to be, whatever your problem, whatever your goal is, and whatever level you currently work at. They have been written to take you on a journey of discovery about yourself and maybe about the world around you.

In the various courses I’m going to guide you through common problems I have confronted with patients, I’m going to fill in a few knowledge gaps, alert you to the common cognitive biases that hold many people back, and introduce you to some commonly used therapy techniques and coaching techniques that I’ve seen work.

Firstly let’s look at the basic methodology used in this book, I will use a lot of coaching methodology because it’s a great way to structure the process of how to help you and get you going on your journey. If you didn’t already know coaching and ‘life coaching’ as it is more commonly known as today in it’s simplest form is helping you to get from where you are now to where you want to get to.

Traditionally at the highest levels in both sport and business, it is now accepted that coaching helps you to work and play to your strengths and perform to the best of your abilities, and to be the best you can be. In a more formal definition coaching can be used as a tool to help you, your team and the organisation you work for to succeed by unlocking your capabilities. I’m a GP, I’m a medical doctor, but I’m also a coach and I use coaching language and coaching techniques in the many medical consultations I have every day and I have done this for many years.

Some of the coaching techniques I will introduce you to are used by coaches who working with top CEOs and our top athletes. If you decide to take the course I will be asking you some difficult questions, and this is deliberate because this is what coaching does, it gets you to start thinking a bit differently and it helps you get clarity on not just your goals but also the things you need to do in your life to get there.

If any of these questions I ask you really resonate with you, well you also have my permission to stop reading go away take a few minutes, a few days, or as long as you need until you come up with the answers you need. This is what coaching does, it gets people to ask themselves questions, it gets them to come up with solutions, and that’s what I want to happen when you take one of our courses.

Our courses will help you figure out and coach you towards real solutions to some of the problems you are facing, we mix the coaching with a little bit of gentle therapy as you progress through the courses.

Maybe the first thing you need to do to get over a problem in your life is to be aware that the problem exists, this course will open your eyes to types of thinking that may be causing you to fail or fall short when others seem to succeed.

The way a person thinks can hold them back, so I can help you to repair some of your thinking, this is a process I’m an expert in, and this is why this book is different.

Technically I‘m going to this with something called Cognitive Debiasing (let’s call this CDB for short). If you’ve ever had that penny drop moment when everything just seems clear for the first time and you know exactly what to do well that’s probably a bit of cognitive debiasing happening in your head at that moment.

Each of the sections in this course concentrates on a different way that a person could improve their thinking, the content is ordered in a way that’ll take you on a journey.

My hope is that throughout this course you’ll have some moments of clarity.

I don’t know individually what you need to work on, I just know what most people do need to work on. So if something seems obvious fair enough, but I’ll guarantee that give the courses a bit of time, apply yourself to some of the exercises, and you’re gonna see a few things quite differently than you do now and these things are going to have a major effect on how you approach your life in many different ways.

Being successful is not all about what’s wrong it’s also about playing to your strengths and also doing what’s right, a lot of the examples and chapters in this book are of patterns of thinking that are the mental heuristics (mental short cuts) and good thinking habits I’ve seen people use to fix their problems. Some of the content, therefore, focuses on these good ways of thinking too, I call these improved patterns of thinking Success Heuristics.

I’m going to admit I’ve also pinched some of the best techniques used by therapists and psychologists all over the world, but I’ve only pinched the ones that work. There’s a big overlap between therapy, counselling, and coaching, elements of CDB can be mapped across to some of the original elements of CBT, and this can also be mapped across to some of the newer elements of NLP.

I’m a generalist I’m not bothered with which line of therapy or psychology a technique has come from, nor am I restricted just to one particular type of therapy. I just want to use something that works to help you fix that problem you need to fix.

From the start I’m not going to pull any punches in fact, I’m going to give it to you straight, I’m going to train you how to be more effective in your thinking, and by using the techniques, exercises and examples in the book you can do really start to set out on your journey towards the life you really want.

Some people need a degree of therapy to ‘solving their problems by psychological means’, others may need a bit of coaching to help them figure out how to get to where they want to get to, whilst most of us need a bit of both.

Too often a therapist tries to counsel a person when coaching is needed dragging them back into their past when all they want is to move forward. Or a coach tries to coach a person when they really need some therapy to let go of their past that is going to continue to hold them back.

In addition to coaching, counselling, success heuristics and cognitive debiasing I have written this book using my skills as an educator and as a resource for people wanting to understand the world around them and a bit more especially about the reasons why people make poor decisions or just get mentally stuck.

A bit of feedback I’ve already had is that a friend has already told me if that despite anything else all this course really does is get you to step back, learn from some of the examples and apply a bit more common sense when it’s needed.

Actually we will go into the subject of common sense a little bit later in the course, but let me just say this for now that a lot of common sense is just about doing the obvious, the problem is for people who get influenced by cognitive biases and stuck in a problematic ways of thinking they don’t see or do the obvious and common sense just doesn’t apply.

So join us and start your journey today and learn how you can start to make some better choices in your life.

Dr Jeff Stoker

Clinician, writer, educator, speaker, and problem expert. Helping people to think better, to solve problems, and get their lives unstuck.