One thing is for sure we are all getting older, and if you are reading this article you probably consider yourself a ‘grown up’ but when we left our childhood behind did we also leave behind some of the life skills we learned when we were younger?
This article has been written to remind you of some of the key traits that you had when you were a child that can help you today in your adult life, in your grown up world, and in your career.
1. Children don’t take no for an answer.
“Mum can I have some chocolate?” No.
“Dad can I have some chocolate?” No.
“Please.. can I have some chocolate? No.
“Why can’t I have some chocolate?”…and on and on.
If you are a parent you will have had many conversation like this, children are focused on what they want, their whole world depends upon their immediate needs, they are not frightened of the word ‘no’, the simply word doesn’t phase them, and they are oblivious to it as they push all boundaries until they get what they want.
Imagine if we changed our mindset back to that of a child, we wouldn’t be hindered by the fear of getting ‘no’ for an answer, we wouldn’t be afraid to say no to others, and perhaps we would be more persistent.
2. Children dream.
Children dream, whether they want to be an astronaut, the president or drive a fire-truck, they simply believe they can do it and whatever that dream is they are absolutely convinced that it’s going to come true.
As adults sometimes regrets take the place of our dreams, and that means we need to start dreaming again, we need to take time to dream about what we really want out of life, and like a child we need to believe our dreams really could come true, because everything starts with a dream.
3. Children keep trying.
I remember teaching the kids to ride their bikes, they fell down, they scraped their knees and elbows but it didn’t stop them, they just wiped away the tears and got back up again and again.
Children leave their comfort zone every day, they learn by failure, they literally fall down and get back up, it’s a trait they are born with, it’s how they learn.
As adults we lose the persistence we had in childhood, we forget what it’s like to be outside of our comfort zone and we give up far too soon.
So be like a child, get back up after you fall or fail, and like the old Japanese proverb says – ‘fall down seven times, get up eight’.
4. Children are curious.
Children are curious, they are naturally inquisitive, they have a hunger to know more, curiosity is why a child explores the world around them, curiosity drives their ability to learn and experience, it drives them to look for something new.
As adults we need get back our curiosity, we need to find out what else the world has to offer us, and we need to lose our fear of something new, as Einstein once said – ‘I have no special talent, I am just passionately curious’.
5. Children live in the now.
Have you ever seen a child totally engrossed in what they are doing, they can play for hours fully immersed and focused in their play, they spend their time in the present, they don’t worry about the future, they don’t dwell on the past they spend their time living in the ‘now’.
As adults we spend less time living in the now, living in the present moment is the only place where we can take action, because we can’t change our past, and we can’t predict our future, and the ‘now’ is the only place where we have the power to create a positive effect.
6. Children aren’t afraid to ask.
Children ask for what they want, for them life is simple, to them their objective is clear, they don’t live according to ‘what ifs’, they don’t try and read minds, they don’t make things complicated they just ask for what they want.
As adults we develop a hesitation to ask for what we want, we can even develop a habit of focusing on what we don’t want, by not asking we can miss opportunity, we can start to resent others, we become envious and eventually disappointed.
Perhaps we need to just ask a little more for what we want, just like I say to my kids – ‘if you don’t ask you don’t get’.
7. Children don’t take things personally.
Children don’t bare grudges, they don’t take things personally, even a well deserved telling off can be like water off a duck’s back, after a few minutes any resentment disappears and it is like nothing has happened.
As adults we take things far too personally, we bear grudges, we carry too much baggage around, the trick is to let go, to move on, it is said that – ‘resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to get sick’.
So let’s not forget what children teach us about life, we must remember the traits from our childhood that got us to where we are today, and yes she finally broke us and we gave her the chocolate.
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