Set No Goals sounds like a recipe for disaster, so allow me to tell you a little more before I show you how the No Goals state of mind can help you.
I’m sure you agree that there’s times in your life that getting something right first time is very unlikely to happen or when getting that perfect outcome will take persistence, this is where the ‘set no goals’ state of mind will help.
The ‘set no goals’ is only partially about goal setting because it’s also about a state of mind, a state of mind that protects you against failure and a state of mind that helps you achieve what you want.
It works on the principle that some things take time where typically multiple efforts are needed before success is achieved, for example the average toddler falls at least 200 times before their first step, or a child needs to learn what makes them fall before they can balance on their push bike.
However when we get older failure becomes more difficult to bare, the fear of rejection becomes a barrier, the impact to your self esteem is more apparent and it takes us longer to get back up when we get knocked down.
For most people failure takes you way out of your comfort zone, but imagine if you could create a ‘mindset’ that would mean that the more we tried the better we felt, this is what happens when you ‘go for no’ and set no goals.
Set No Goals
It’s quite simple in some scenarios the only way statistically to improve your chances is to try more times, in sporting terms if you don’t shoot you don’t score and giving up after a single miss won’t win you the game.
“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” – Wayne Gretzky.
Every ‘no’ statistically should bring you nearer to ‘yes’, because ‘no’ doesn’t mean never, and if we flip the psychology of a no answer we get the mindset we need to succeed and this is the set no goals mindset.
For example a salesman could make it his aim to be the first one to 100 ‘no’ answers from potential customers, using ‘no’ as a goal he maintains motivation by using rejections to motivate him further, hopefully he also knows he will get the odd ‘yes’ along the way.
And when he hears a ‘yes’ the expert salesman will also try and sell you more and more until you finally say ‘no’ maximising his sale, and this is the beauty of using no for a goal.
It’s not just a sales technique for salesmen, in any negotiation you need to go for the ‘no’, because it’s the only way to know how far you can push the boundaries before you strike a deal.
If practice makes perfect, you only learn by repetition, and the more you do something the better you get, so just like that child taking it’s first steps aim to fall again and again because it’s the only way you get better and the only way of statistically improving your chances of success.
Learning how to set ‘no’ goals can mean that you are less likely to give up, it also gives you an edge on your competition who will almost definitely lose heart before you do. In failing you learn and by flipping your psychology to ‘set no goals’ you can handle rejection and expand your comfort zone.
Try having a day when you set No goals push conversations to the ‘no’, challenge yourself to see how long it takes you to get 10 ‘no’ answers and I’m sure you will be surprised how much you achieve.