Fear is a powerful emotion and conquering fear is something you need to do to achieve success, by facing up to the things that you are fearful of you can move past these limiting beliefs and move out of complacency.
When you look back at what you have done in life and where your have achieved success, each time I’m sure you will recall that these were also the times that you had to conquer fear to achieve.
Fear is defined as an unconscious primitive drive, it is a basic emotion and a hard wired instinct to get us away from danger.
Fear is a survival instinct it gives us an edge for fight or flight in response to stressful situations.
Too often however fear can stop us from achieving our best, it can make us avoid things we must do, or cause us to freeze when we should be taking action.
This means there are clearly times when we have to conquer fear to be successful, this article gives us 4 ways to conquer fear by addressing how you feel about fear, by turning fear into something constructive, and by making your fears fuel and motivate you to take action.
4 Steps to Conquering Fear.
1.Whats the worst that could happen?
It is a must that in any situation you need to step back detach yourself and take a second look at things, you need to ask yourself a few questions; Is your fear real or unreal? is this situation worth worrying about? and what is the worse that could happen?
If the worst happened how would you come to terms with it and cope and re-adjust?
When you can work out what you will do if the worst happened you can then move on and start thinking about the positive outcomes that you really want to see, focus on these and set these as realistic goals to work towards.
2. Get used to the challenge.
For some fear arises because we need to move out of our comfort zone in order to achieve our goals, when doing this we go from a place of stability and safety to one that exposes us to risk and challenge.
Getting used to taking more risks and taking on challenges helps us conquer fear, as by getting used to experiencing challenges and being out of our comfort zone we then start to enjoy the mindset and the fear of stepping out of our comfort zone diminishes.
3. Can you do something about it?
Can you do something about? i.e does the fear lie within your circle of influence and not just your circle of concern?
This concept is first described by Stephen Covey, he described the circle of concern (this circle that contains everything in life you are concerned about) as a larger circle that surrounds your circle of influence (the circle of the things in life you have control over). For a full explanation read 7Habits or follow this link.
In short it’s a way of saying that there are some things in life you have no control over so in this context ‘why then should you fear these outcomes’.
There is also another message here, as if we can’t do anything now to help our situation, going back to Covey’s analogy can we expand our circle of influence so that we can be proactive and influence the outcome.
The way we do this is essentially by self improvement and by increasing our ability, skills, network and leverage to be more effective to increase what we can influence in the future.
4. Fear as Fuel.
Fear is a great motivator, think how fast you run when you are being chased, motivation in fear is primitive it’s self preservation.
Fear moves you away from pain and into a place of safety, in business this pain can be the fear of losing a deal, it may be fear of losing money or not achieving. Essentially fear needs to to spur you on to achieve and it needs to be turned into raw energy to fuel you and to motivate you.
Only fear what you need to fear, rise to the challenge, use fear to disturb you to make changes and let it fuel and motivate your efforts.