The ‘Back of a Taxi’ effect.
For those of us that get anywhere in life its a known fact that focusing your efforts towards your goal and a having a defined endpoint is the first thing you need to do before you start doing anything, and in the words of Stephen Covey ‘Start with an End in mind’.
Some of people forget where we are going and end up going nowhere, so perhaps one of the things holding you back is the ‘back of a taxi effect’.
Imagine sitting in the back of a cab and the taxi driver asks
“Where to mate?”
and all you can tell him is where you don’t want to go.
If you don’t know where you are going just like here in this ‘back of a taxi analogy’ you won’t actually get anywhere, too many people focus on the negatives, focus on what they don’t want, and never really plan what they need to do to get to where they want to go.
This all sounds like simple stuff but you’d be surprised how many people this applies to and how many times I need to use this simple analogy when consulting every single week.
‘I don’t want to be unhappy’ said the patient.
‘So how do you want to feel’ said the doctor ?
After a puzzled expression ‘I want to feel happy said the patient’
‘So how are you going to get there ?’
Quite simply stop going blindly round and round in circles focusing on where you don’t want to go, focus on where you want to get to and you will generally be going in the right direction.